This is a heartfelt and well written account of the writer’s tragic loss of her sister so many years ago. I was captured by Judy Eichinger’s courageous and persistent search for the right people who could help her with her unresolved grief. I highly recommend this book to those who have unfortunately suffered the loss of a sibling, and to others, who want to understand the dynamics of such a profound loss.

This is a powerful story of loss and recovery. I found the journey very moving . For those who have experienced a similar tragedy in their youth, it is a must read. And for all of us, a better understanding of how such a loss has affected people we care about.

I loved this book for many reasons. It is a heartfelt and brave memoir of what happens in a family when a child suffers an illness that leads to death, specifically in the voice of a sibling. I could not put it down once I started reading. You can feel the emotions as well as understand the pain. A book for everyone but especially those who have dealt with the same life changing issue. I understood after reading the book how the death of my father’s 16 year old sister when he was 19 affected his relationship with me and my sister and why he was so overprotective. Beautifully written. Recommend it highly.

This is a brave, honest and important book about the author’s long and fraught journey to understanding and embracing her own grief and anger over the death of her sister at 15, when the author was 17. It explores the difficult and years-long consequences of not dealing with that grief, either individually or with her parents. But with help and much work, the author not only reaches a sense of acceptance — including an understanding of her parents’ inability to connect with her grief — but also goes on to be a leader in creating more awareness of the unique issues faced by those who have lost siblings. The book should be a great comfort and offer a sense of hope to people who also deal with sibling loss.

Compassionate, clearly-written, brutally honest, Judy Eichinger’s memoir is required reading for anyone who has lost a sibling. It is also required reading for the fortunate among us who have not. In often exquisite detail, Ms. Eichinger traces her long journey from loss and grief and self-doubt to a wise acceptance, or perhaps better, enlightment. In the process, she teaches us the virtues of patience, empathy, and, above all else, love. Portions of this book made me cry. Here, in short, is a real contribution to our understanding of what it means to lose, in this case, all in one blow, a friend, a sister, a beloved rival.

Judy Eichinger’s memoir is the first I’ve read dealing with sibling loss, and its clear and evocative prose allows for easy and immediate identification with the author, regardless of one’s familial losses.

I know the author of the book and knew nothing of her sister Ruth. This book is very enlightening for anyone who has lost a loved one